Contemplative Youth Ministry is refreshing rain for dry youth workers and barren youth ministries. More than the same old youth ministry tips and tricks, it gives principles and practices to soak in God's grace, love, and power. I wish I had read it 15 years ago." -- Kara Powell, Ph.D., executive director, Center for Youth Ministry and Family Ministry, Fuller Theological Seminary (dust jacket endorsement)
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I recently finished reading Mark Yaconelli's Contemplative Youth Ministry: Practicing the Presence of Jesus (Zondervan, 2006), and have to say that it was one of the most inspiring and hope-filled books about ministering to students I have ever read.
Modern notions of "youth ministry" have consistently pr oven to be a miserable failure for four decades now, and all too many churches continue to hire youth ministry professionals whom they expect to "build" well-attended youth programs. In so doing, we continue -- in effect -- to amputate the youth from the rest of the body, the church. We cut them off from the adult population of our congregations and send them to "the youth group", and then wonder why they're not interested in attending church once they graduate from high school.
In the book's introduction, Mark quickly identifies the root problem:
"The real crisis facing those of us who seek to share faith with youth is this:
- We don't know how to be with our kids.
- We don't know how to be with ourselves.
- We don't know how to be with God." (p. 19)
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Ouch!
But he's right. We've known for the longest time that most of what students learn is "caught" rather than "taught." As a former Christian educator, I often encountered the statistic that 80% of what students learned came, not from what their teachers taught, but from who their teachers were. If we yearn for our youth to become fully devoted followers of Jesus, then they need to spend time with adults (and older peers) who are themselves fully devoted followers of Jesus. And that's exactly what Mark draws out and then develops in his book.
Well documented with statistical data and well-rounded with the personal experiences of students and youth leaders around the country, Contemplative Youth Ministry is primarily written for adults and church leaders who are interested in breaking away from the "norm" and desiring to minister to students in a way that is fresher, deeper, and ultimately -- more fruitful.
"Changing the way we relate to young people isn't just a matter of developing new techniques or broadening our theology. It's about a different attitude of the heart. It's about being present to young people with a loving transparency. We're seeking to see teens with the eyes of Jesus, hear teens with the hears of Jesus, and perceive teens with the heart of Jesus." (p. 79)
Mark also effectively articulates how many churches still approach youth ministry more as a reaction to their anxiety over youth, rather than letting love be their motivation. He offers the following telling comparisons: