Rocky Roads
July 30, 2008
Most of us prefer our paths in life to be relatively smooth and easy to travel. What life sometimes dishes out to us, however, is something far different. Sometimes our road becomes rocky.
Rather than a beautiful, smooth trail, our path becomes uneven, unsteady, and unpredictable. The rocks and boulders slow us down, trip us up, and morph our journey into a challenging, and even painful trek.
Over the past year-and-a-half, the road I've found myself on has been a rocky one. A number of deaths in the family has kept me in that funky "shock/grief/aftermath" mode without much of a break. I gained back the 50+ lbs. that I had previously lost, and I quickly felt the debilitating effects. The rocky road I found myself on became a challenge physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Unlike my personal life, my life at church has been an exciting time of growth. Demanding in terms of both time and energy though, I found myself often feeling depleted. There just wasn't enough emotional (or physical) energy left to pursue the hobbies and pastimes I had previously enjoyed. THAT is why my blogging became nearly non-existent.
Over the past 18 months or so, I have discovered a fascinating truth -- that rocky roads are paradoxically beneficial. I remember reading once that regularly walking on rocky and uneven surfaces is very good for one's back (something to do with the constant adjusting and subsequent strengthening of one's back muscles), and as a life-long hiker -- I've long known that rocky paths are equally good for strengthening one's ankles as they are a potential risk for spraining one's ankle's.
So what's the point in all this? Simply that although the last year-and-a-half has been full of hardships and difficulties, God has strangely enabled me to see how they have already been a benefit to me.
My perspective has already begun to change, and the benefits are being realized. Physically, I've started loosing that weight I had gained back, and have dropped 2 waistline inches so far. I'm eating better, exercising more, getting away for prayer more frequently, and feeling my emotional and spiritual reservoirs beginning to fill again.
There are still rocks and boulders on my path. My mother-in-law, who has been fighting two forms of terminal cancer for several months, finally passed away early this morning. Her painful journey over, she is finally at rest with Christ.
Something in my spirit tells me that this season of death and suffering that our family has been in has finally come to a close. Yes, it's been hard. But it hasn't left us empty-handed. Consistent with the ancient wisdom of the Apostle Paul, God is redemptively bringing forth good out of these past months -- good that we are only beginning to see.
So then... if the road you are currently traveling has become rocky, take heart my friend. Although He may seem to be unseen, God is at work -- both in your situation, and in you.
May the peace of the Lord Christ go with you
wherever he may send you.
May he guide you through the wilderness,
protect you through the storm.
May he bring you home rejoicing
at the wonders he has shown you.
May he bring you home rejoicing
once again into doors.
In the name of the Father,
and of the Son,
and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.(morning prayer blessing, Celtic Daily Prayer)
Photo credit: © Heinrich Volschenk, iStockphoto.com
Thank you for this Chris... I'm going through my own rocky road right now and while I know God has a purpose and good things will begin to come out of this, it helps to be reminded in the raw middle of this grief. Blessings to you my brother.
Posted by: songstress7 | July 30, 2008 at 12:05 PM
songstress7 --
Thanks for posting. Strength and peace to you, despite the rocks.
- Chris
Posted by: Chris | July 30, 2008 at 01:36 PM
So good to hear from you, and pray for you my friend.
I am walking the rocky roads right now myself. Also several deaths in my family and health conerns for me and the family, and you have my empathy.
I just remember that we "see but through a glass darkly" and we will continue to get the clarity that we seek as God wills it.
Posted by: Carl Holmes | July 30, 2008 at 05:58 PM
Hey Brother!
I know you probably don't remember me, but this is Bill from Awaiting Rain (fellow Free Methodist elder). Just wanted to say hello and let you know I'm still enjoying your blog. I've linked you on my new project, www.wesojourn.org.
May God overwhelm you with His kindness!
Bill
Posted by: Bill Huffhine | August 02, 2008 at 07:30 AM
Good to see you blogging again, Chris. I feel with you and your family. It's good to hear that you are healing. I'm certain you'll be hiking through the "Rockies" in no time along with your family and your extra baggage will disappear in the heat of the sun.
During my "annus horribilis" which came to an end last fall, I too could not blog and had to cut down on hobbies. I found that at the end of the tunnel the cliché holds true:
What doesn't kill you, strengthens you.
God keep you safe and may you continue to bless us all with who you are and what you do here on the internet. I think that you blog is one of the most sensitive and intelligent around. Thank you for that.
Posted by: Carlos | August 03, 2008 at 03:33 PM
Dude. for some reason this line:
Unlike my personal life, my life at church has been an exciting time of growth.
deeply disturbed me. Why the divide? and why @ church. You don't go to church you are (the) Church...
I think this false dichotomy, that my life is not sacramental, holy or important if it's just my personal life and what I do at church is separate is dangerous...
not to give you a hard time though.
iLYB
Seraphim
Posted by: Seraphim | August 04, 2008 at 12:15 PM
Seraphim,
Ha! Of course you're giving me a hard time -- I expect that from you (lyb).
And... you should be embracing the paradox by now -- the paradox that our entire life is life "within" the church, and yet, there remains a sense in which we can talk of our life within or outside of the church as well. The latter is more of a construct of the English language, rather than a philosophical/theological assertion.
I suppose then, my question back to you would be: did you understand what I had set out to explain?
Blessings,
Chris
Posted by: Chris | August 04, 2008 at 07:13 PM
Agreed. Amen. God bless you.
Posted by: Yvonne | August 04, 2008 at 07:53 PM
Agreed. Amen. God bless you.
Posted by: Yvonne | August 04, 2008 at 07:54 PM
I think so Chris. I read a book awhile ago titled "Why a suffering world makes sense" and my take away from it was that 'paradoxically' all of who we are cannot be revealed in the good times and in peace.
To totally know and be known we have to suffer, to endure and grow thru it. My favorite picture of peace is the bird securely asleep in her nest in the tree in the midst of the storm.
I can also see where stepping outside of time and into the mystery of the Other during Liturgy could be an oasis of peace in an otherwise difficult world.
lyb
seraphim
Posted by: Seraphim | August 05, 2008 at 11:24 AM